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[momthree]

I appreciate the responses, I have decided to try as hard as I can to save my marriage. I have given my problem to God, if my husband does leave in a year which he says so, I will know I have done everything I can. We don't attend church regularly, I am a child of God, my husband used to be but I don't know anyone. He will not go to counselling. He says he will only be nice to me and not to expect anymore. I pray that God will help me through this, we are married, in a church in front of God, God has to fix this.

[Helen]

Momthree, I commend you on your determination to repair your marriage, and emphaise too when it seems the effort is not being returned.

My own marriage has been struggling for quite awhile too, and I know that its in Gods hands ultimately. Our role as women married to unbelieving men, is complex, we must do all we can to serve as God tells us, whilst also remembering that it might not be enough for our man, and this may well be Gods will.

Whatever God's will in the life of your marriage, I will remember you before him in the hope that you will feel his presence when things are tough.

Remember God is good, in Christ all things can be found.

Helen
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?Twas grace that taught my heart to fear, And grace my fears relieved; How precious did that grace appear, The hour I first believed!

[momthree]

Our life together has been rocky because of the lack of sexual contact. I am afraid I have been wrapped up in raising children and pleasing parents. My husband has sometimes been pushed aside. It was never because I did not love him. I have always worked and raised our children. My husband is a law enforcement officer and has worked so many hours that I have become the main parent. He says that it is too late for us now that I have time since our children are grown. He is not interested in me or the way I look. Which I think hurts me the most. I try really hard to be attractive. I am 48 years old and a school teacher. I am not ugly or fat, I take good care of myself. My husband says he can only be nice to me and that since he has no where else to go he is staying until our youngest daughter graduates from high school, he says leaving will be easier then. I have decided to do all that I can to show him I love him. If he still decides to leave after a year then I can say I tired. I love my husband, he has been my whole life, I have been married my entire adult life to him. If God put us together, then God can bring us back. After his words I am so hurt but I know I can do this. I have stopped crying and I am going to use this time until my daughter graduates to work to keep my husband.