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[Godsgirl]

Hello all bros and sis' in Christ:

I have been dating my fiancé for many years now and we are engaged. Although this is something I am very excited about there is a but!... :He lives in LV Nevada and he thinks it would be a good idea to move there because life is less expensive and we could ge a really nice house without stressing out!

Well.. I guess I have no problem going but my family is.. they think that because is the soo called "sin city" I should not be there.. not even dare to live there!

I do not want to be a prejudiced person and I am very confused….. this is kind of spoiling the happiness I should have about my wedding…I want to do God's will and I just can't seem to see what is the right decision....

Do you think I am wrong?
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[kueh]

Greetings.

In the course of my counselling experiences, I have encountered many such similiar problems between two persons in love.

Distance is never the issue. Location is never the issue either. For where there is love, in this instance the one you are loving is going to be with you, what is with the place being a "sin city".

Sin is anywhere and everywhere. Even in the "cleanest of corners" of the world, sin exists. This is the devil's land and we are living as strangers in this world if we are in Christ. We are in the world but not of the world is what the Bible reveals to us.

The ability to fall to sin is personal and individual. It is about how firmly a child of God is going to stand in the grace of God. It is about how such a child is going to carry him/herself inwardly as well as outwardly under temptations.

Remember that temptations are ever the tools that the devil is using against God's children. He can tempt you anywhere; even at home. Just look at the TV's programme and you are bound to find that sins and temptations exist.

What you need to do is TO HAVE A GOOD HEART TO HEART TALK with your b/f and express the concerns of your parents to him as well as yours honestly. In the light of love, I am sure both could compromise something. Then, when a decision is reached between the two of you, inform your parents.

Over here, I would like to bring out the point that when a couple are in love, it is the love between them two. Any other person or persons that come into this love is but just a by-stander. For ultimately, it is the two of them who will be making this love works and working out and growing in this one love together.

Remember this -

We are called to LOVE. So love is outflowing but at the same time, the ability to identify the different types of love and playing the roles correctly and properly is THE KEY TO SUCCESSFUL LIVING IN LOVE.

An illustration to help you understand -

You are the daughter to your parents. So your love for them is that of a daughter.

You may be a sister to your siblings, so you are to love them as a sister and fulfil this role perfectly.

Now, you are the girlfriend of the one you are loving and going to be married to, play that role, now as a g/f and subsequently as a wife, with the correct responsibility in the light of love.

Understand this and you will know that in a man's lifetime, he carries with himself many multiple roles and if he knows how to play each role accordingly, love grows and blooms.

God bless.
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[ChaChynga]

You are supposed to LEAVE and CLEAVE and to hell with what they want, it's YE and HE.

Nice to get advice, but dont make it compelling upon yourself. Start off with the right foot and inform them one way or another their advice is just that and you and you hubby will make the decisions alone.
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