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[JosephKim]

i kno many of you are married, and i cant wait to do so myself hehe. whats it like? do you think you can have the same level of love from day 1 to like when ur 90? how hard is that? im a little worried myself because when i have a girlfriend it seems like i will love her forever and then i get tired of her . i kno bad right. describe ur marriages if u can.

[kueh]

Greetings.

Marriage comes through love.

For a marriage to work, first of all, the understanding of the other person is a MUST. How much you do understand the other person especially his/her personality is one of the important keys. The next is your ability to ACCOMODATE him/her especially his bad habits, temperament or in short, his/her weakness.

Often, quarrels among couples would be that of money and second love outside of the wedlock. The main justification and common for seeking a second love outside of a wedlock goes something like this:

"He/She is not what he/she used to be?"

"I cannot stand all his nonsense anymore!"

"My love for him/her has ceased because he/she has changed.

So, what make a man/woman has a change of heart? Surely there must be reasons behind? The common answer is "Love ceases."

Love ceases when both parties do not work at maintaining it. Too often, movies depict love as something magical and could work on its own. That's not true! Love needs nurturing by both in order to grow perfect and last.

A one-sided effort is never going to get the desirable result in successful marriage.

Therefore, when you are in love with someone, examine and ask yourself SERIOUSLY if you could accept his/her weaknesses as well as strengths. If there is any aspect of the other person which you could not tolerate or accomodate in you.

Consider carefully all aspects of the other person before you make the decision to marry during the courtship period. Also, remember that there is no such thing as "love at first sight". Know why? Cos, love needs time to grow. The so-called "love at first sight" is but just an infatuation over another physically or in layman's term - Physical attraction; that certain part (s) of the other person's physical body attract you and you find him/her charming. Let me give you an example:

For a man, he may be easily attracted by a pair of long slender legs. Yet, to another, he could probably be attracted by the eyes of a woman and vice versa for women as well. So, when such a man/woman appears before him/her, the part that attracts draw this person towards wanting to know the other. But unfortunately, the movie industries labelled this as "love at first sight."

Understand the cycle leading to marriage and it will probably help anyone to understand what love is:

Intial attraction draws a couple together. It is from here that maybe the seed of love is being planted. Once it has been done, efforts must come from both to make this seed of love grows otherwise it is just an attraction or a one-sided love we are talking about which is hardly fruitful and able to lead to a sucessful marriage if insist upon to marry.

God bless.

kueh
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[pauiel]

THANKS!!!!!!!